tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post4501112094646244083..comments2023-12-18T18:42:44.367-08:00Comments on HATESEXY: On Lost FriendshipJon Hunthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07441313115533736554noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-54431104174090146852008-11-01T15:11:00.000-07:002008-11-01T15:11:00.000-07:00Lost friendship is like someone dying, in the way ...Lost friendship is like someone dying, in the way that you never "get over it", at best, "you just learn to live with it."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-7731389995073479502008-10-31T10:05:00.000-07:002008-10-31T10:05:00.000-07:00Oh I'll cook your rabbit, and I'll cook it good!I'...Oh I'll cook your rabbit, and I'll cook it good!<BR/><BR/>I'm bringin' it, just you two wait...<BR/>xoxoxoxoxMarnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17003394370389815203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-62577050862191729952008-10-30T10:55:00.000-07:002008-10-30T10:55:00.000-07:00Well, MY input is about ALL those that have left m...Well, MY input is about ALL those that have left my life of late. The 'Your So Vain' Person (that thinks this post is about them), and then some. There has been a lot of this kind of malarky going on in my life for a couple of years now. A whole lotta no fun!<BR/><BR/>And we love your fatal attraction love Marne! Bring it!!!!<BR/><BR/>(yes...I have referenced Ms. Simon's work twice in one week...so sue me. It's a good song!!!)<BR/><BR/>xoxo<BR/>TrixMissTrixihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01396685421911541091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-39507344745207809152008-10-30T10:49:00.000-07:002008-10-30T10:49:00.000-07:00And yay, Marne, I'd be happy to have you cook our ...And yay, Marne, I'd be happy to have you cook our pet rabbit in our pot anytime.<BR/><BR/>That sounds dirty but it ain't meant to!!!Jon Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07441313115533736554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-35529811702924595592008-10-30T10:47:00.000-07:002008-10-30T10:47:00.000-07:00Good words, Beques, but the post isn't really abou...Good words, Beques, but the post isn't really about the person you think it is, though they undoubtedly think it is (isn't everything?) -- it's really about a buncha other people, kind of a culmination of a YEAR of that kinda thing. But good words nonetheless. You KNOW I'm a classic misanthropist in general.Jon Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07441313115533736554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-10768037830456635852008-10-30T08:47:00.000-07:002008-10-30T08:47:00.000-07:00well anyone who would let you or Trix go is insane...well anyone who would let you or Trix go is insane, so whatever to them, they're just plain dumb! I'm never letting you both go whether you like it or not. <BR/><BR/>Yes, that's a little Fatal Attraction there, but it was meant to be sweet, love you guys!Marnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17003394370389815203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-47572810815450122462008-10-29T22:51:00.000-07:002008-10-29T22:51:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Bequeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10672909085197079657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-6673877431039036072008-10-29T17:12:00.000-07:002008-10-29T17:12:00.000-07:00Yep and yep. You completely nailed the whole issue...Yep and yep. You completely nailed the whole issue. I went through a major loss of a close friend before I moved out to the States. It still kind of bothers me,even though I know it was for the best. You are right when you say it can be as painful as the end of a relationship. It's a very interesting area and very complex too. That was one of your best posts, in my opinion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-62354475950532636002008-10-29T16:03:00.000-07:002008-10-29T16:03:00.000-07:00I love the part of the definition Trixi posted "it...I love the part of the definition Trixi posted "it is a relationship of immense faith and love for each other" and unfortunately when a friendship has ended or is somehow severed that's the points that I find myself mulling over- because losing a friend seems so unfathomable that I go over how it could be fixed, or what failure of perception I might have had that could be altered and the like. It's the loss of faith that makes it hurt I think.laphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05129728708993920747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-28939261517826187472008-10-29T14:37:00.000-07:002008-10-29T14:37:00.000-07:00(sorry kids...I should have started my own blog wi...(sorry kids...I should have started my own blog with that one :-p )<BR/>xo<BR/>TrixMissTrixihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01396685421911541091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-71206495673568554412008-10-29T14:36:00.000-07:002008-10-29T14:36:00.000-07:00http://ezinearticles.com/?Definition-of-Friendship...http://ezinearticles.com/?Definition-of-Friendship---A-Few-Facts&id=1267049<BR/><BR/>"Friendship is a personal relationship shared between each friend for the welfare of other, in other words, it is the relationship of trust, faith and concern for each other feelings. It is a relationship of mutual caring and intimacy among one another. A friend is one who knows you as a person and regards you for what you are and not what he or she is looking in a good friend. Best friend is one who accepts the good as well bad qualities of his friend and also takes an initiative in correcting and mending them. Friendship is a distinctive kind of concern for your friend, it is a relationship of immense faith and love for each other."<BR/><BR/>They say that the pain one suffers in a divorce is very much the same as one suffers from the death of a loved one. I think this can also be said regarding the loss of a friendship too. In fact, the 'loss of one still living' can be worse because you suffer a deliberate loss of trust, love and affection. There are choices made in this kind of circumstance, and the choices are not usually for all parties involved. In most cases, it's ONE person that holds the fate of the relationship in their hands, and that one person will drop or even throw away that fate. <BR/><BR/>The greatest key to this kind of loss is honesty. So often greater hurt can be avoided and relationships can be saved if people are just honest with one another. Lack of honesty is utter lack of respect, and that is where the friendship/relationship suffers most. Sometimes with honesty comes pain, but that first little sting heals far easier than the deep wound that dishonesty and lies create. And honest dialog can do nothing but strenghen ones standing, because you cant' work to fix things without honesty.<BR/><BR/>There ARE those that find friendships to be disposable and don't care who they hurt. Those people are SOCIOPATHS and they lack to capacity to handle a real friendship. If you get involved with one of those, then just thank your lucky stars when THAT relationship ends...... then RRRRUUUUUUNNNNNN!<BR/><BR/>*gets off soapbox and kicks it to the corner*<BR/>xo<BR/>TrixMissTrixihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01396685421911541091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-53797723788977831642008-10-29T13:35:00.000-07:002008-10-29T13:35:00.000-07:00I still, even 15 years later, have dreams of recon...I <I>still</I>, even 15 years later, have dreams of reconnecting with my best friend from high school and having it be one of those suspended animation friendships instead of the stabbing death that I know it really was. And I <I>still</I> question what it was that I did wrong and wish he would have just told me instead of cutting off all contact entirely.belsumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06943795389862466294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-78617519153877823872008-10-29T13:34:00.000-07:002008-10-29T13:34:00.000-07:00Awww, thanks for writing about this Jonny. I've be...Awww, thanks for writing about this Jonny. I've been going through this for a while now, it's getting easier, but still it's hard and frustrating. I love my friends like I love my family, and anytime one is lost, it's like losing a little piece of me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6039385200676829521.post-53000081134210059872008-10-29T13:26:00.000-07:002008-10-29T13:26:00.000-07:00yes. it does suck, and it hurts every day.yes. it does suck, and it hurts every day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com